Parent/child angst…..better call Mom!!

I’ve had some really interesting responses to my previous blog about “taciturn emails” from my son who lives in New York. And I can see that the issue isn’t just on the parental side, but also from kids…grown kids, of course….who feel at least some degree of angst and guilt that they HAVEN’T CALLED MOM/DAD IN WAY TOO LONG!

Oh, I’ll definitely call tomorrow, then tomorrow goes by and the next day until it’s been weeks. Or longer. And it is true, that when you don’t speak with people for some time, you have less to talk about when you do. Oh you may say “How can that be? If a lot of time has gone by you have tons to tell!” Yeah, but where do you start…you just can’t begin a litany of everything that has happened in your life, ’cause how boring is that, and now that I think about it, not all that much has happened, certainly nothing big or all that exciting, so maybe I just say, “Oh, not much same old, same old. Everyone is fine….” Blah, blah, blah.

But when you speak to someone on a daily, or weekly basis, you are so much more in tune with the minutia of someone’s life. Yes, I know, sometimes too much minutia. But really, isn’t that what life really is? Truly big things don’t happen all that much in life, and I might like to know something interesting you cooked for dinner, or how your garden is coming along, or about an interesting dream you had last night. Life is made up of little moments…lots and lot and lots of little moments. And if we keep them all to ourselves, then people don’t really know what our lives are about, because we don’t tell them.

I call my Mom every weekday morning on my way to work. She’s on my cellphone speed dial. And before you give me a gold star, let me say this has only started in the past few years. I used to call a couple of times a week, once a week when my Father was alive. But on that drive to work, it’s a time to connect a little, and just chat. Trust me, big things rarely happen from one day to the next, but I hear how she’s feeling, how she slept, how dinner was in the dining room last night, and sometimes we even venture into politics and other topics. But I know she really looks forward to my call, so I feel really bad if I forget one morning. And I know that one day, perhaps not too far away, she will not be receiving my calls anymore. So I redouble my efforts to stay in touch…about the little things.

Oh, and to Elaine….I have long ago learned the end run. If Jesse doesn’t answer me, Jen usually will.

3 Responses

  1. I just wanted to chime in with this reminder….don’t put off calling your mother and/or father! My mother has been dead for 7 years and my father has been dead for almost 14 years. I would love to be able to call them!

    Although I usually try to not be a nag…I hope those phone calls are not being made while you’re driving. I know everyone thinks they can drive OK while on the phone, but from one of those who is either stuck behind you or almost hit by you, you can’t do both! I don’t want read a blog from you about your bad car accident resulting from driving and talking on the phone.

    OK, off the soapbox about the phone and driving. And, call your mother/father TODAY!

  2. Headsets or bluetooths work well while driving. And my mother loves talking to my fiance (almost daily)…mostly about how I need to go to the dentists or that I need to be careful hanging out with my old fraternity buddies.

  3. I’ve still seen people slowing down traffic or weaving into other lanes with the headsets and bluetooths. When you attention is divided, your reaction time increases. It’s like any distraction, it is just a better idea to keep your eyes AND mind on the road. Maybe we wouldn’t have so many accidents if people would pay attention to the road.

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